by Rizi Xavier Timane
Hawkfish Publishing
2013
185 pages
Spiritual
Rizi Timane began his life in Nigeria as Nasele, a girl. He
always knew he was a boy, but did not transition until he was in his late 30s. An
Unspoken Compromise, his memoir and spiritual guide, is directed to the LGBT
community he serves with his ministry. He has been a resident of the United States
for many years and has a PhD. He studied theology at Claremont School of
Theology and he works as a pastor and counselor, specializing in LGBT and grief
issues.
An Unspoken Compromise is divided into two parts; the first part is a
memoir and the second is a theological look at the biblical passages that are
most often presented as indictments of homosexuality. The two themes that I
identified with the most are his lifelong desire to be accepted by his
parents, and the biblical, fundamentalist position taken by his parents that
would not allow them to accept him for most of his life.
The first theme--the overwhelming desire for love and
acceptance by his parents--is a very heart-rending exploration of a child's
need for acceptance. His mother was very outspoken in her condemnation of his
"choices," but Timane seems to understand that it is her religious
views speaking rather than her heart, which seems to yearn to hug him close. When
my son came out to me as a gay man, I remember that my very first thought was,
"There is nothing that can
separate my son from me or from the love of God!"
The second theme is a study of the scriptures.
Timane helps LGBT
Christians understand the context of the scriptures that on first reading seem
so condemning. He says, "For example, instead of viewing the Bible as
unforgiving and set in stone, I read it with an open, humble, and inquisitive
mind, and always view its stories within the appropriate historical
context." He tells his readers that condemning Christians are followers of
the Bible rather than followers of Jesus who preached love and compassion and
acceptance.
My denomination, the United Methodist Church, is embroiled
in a huge controversy over gay marriage and the acceptance of LGBT people into
ministry. A recent AP news story explains it better than I could write it. You
can find it here.
The crux of the matter is that Methodism is a world-wide religion, and Methodists
in the United States are open to gay marriage and a change in the church discipline that would allow the acceptance of the LGBT community to happen. However,
the members of the world denomination in Africa and Asia are unwilling to make
that move. It is anybody's guess where the controversy will end. My guess is
that the denomination will split into two parts, but most Methodists don't want
to see this happen. It is very disconcerting to see the denomination that I
have been part of all my life in this huge quandary. Most people understand
that the issue of the place of the LGBT community in society to be the civil
rights issue of our generation.
I received this book from the publicist, and I appreciated
receiving it because it helped me put my own church's agony into a very
personal context.
Rizi Timane's website: http://www.rizixaviertimane.com/default.html
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